A simple day, but still learning

Today was a fairly simple day. Nothing extraordinary happened. Not that big things need to happen every day. Peace is perfectly wonderful. It's just there isn't anything major to report other than it's simply been a good day!

I’m just back from shopping with my daughter Dana and her Maid of Honor for Dana's upcoming bridal shower. Nice! She actually has two showers this weekend, one given by her dad’s side of the family, and the other given by my sister and I. Since I am attending both parties as well, it will be a very busy, but also I'm sure, fun weekend.

So, with nothing major to report, I had been thinking about what I wanted to write about today. And this is what came to me…

This morning I was talking with someone about an inaction of mine—meaning I could have taken action on this particular issue, but I didn’t. I consciously chose not to do anything about it because it was not my issue to deal with. Additionally, I do not believe my action would have helped the issue anyway. However, the person who thought I should have taken the action, I am told, was very angry with me as he thought I was wrong in my inaction.

Although I have compassion for this person, I haven’t changed my thoughts about my role one bit. I simply don’t think it was my place to get involved. Furthermore, I am again reminded how easily one becomes a "victim” (I’ve been there many times myself, unfortunately!) From a victims point of view, it is always someone else’s fault for their upset. And in order for a victim to feel better (if it is even possible), someone else must do the “right” thing. So because I didn't do the "right" thing, someone else's happiness had been in my hands.

While I was not exactly the victimizer in this case, I learned today that my inaction added to a victims story. This to me felt bad... not wrong, rather simply caused me to have empathy for the person who partially blamed me for the upset.

For the most part, we usually view pain, fear, and injustice from our own perspective. That is easily most visible to us. However, when we look at it from someone else’s perspective, it’s a good reminder how we must appear to others when we act as victims ourselves. So I am reminded, yet one more time, to stay empowered. My happiness is in my own hands. Living this way makes life is so much better.

It’s been a simple day overall, but never a day short of learning more about myself. I’m happy to be on this journey of mine. Life becomes clearer for me each day, and it’s a joy to experience!!