One thing that gets to me is when people don’t do what they say. They say they are going to do something, and so, that is what I expect. Ohhhh, expectations! Those can get me in trouble. Well, not in trouble, rather cause me much frustration. So within the last week or so, I find myself expecting that in these two particular cases on the top of my head right now, that these people will do what they say they are going to do. But they have not!
So over the last couple of days, I find myself talking to myself. What is going on? What do I need to do to convince them to do what they said they are going to do?
All of the talking in my head was about them, them, them… and their effects on me!
Now, if a client of mine were to tell me what I was telling myself, I would have had an answer immediately. I would have told him/her to look and him/herself. There’s no power in victimhood. And there's little chance of trying to get someone to do something you want them to do, and still be at peace about it. See? That was easy. Then I would have followed up with more about what an empowered person would do in such a situation.
Well, sometimes that is what it takes—pretending that I am my own client. I realized that if I am having such a hard time at being empowered, then looking at it from the point of why I am attracting such behavior should at least help me change my attitude. I can simply create the attitude of empowerment for myself. In other words, maybe “fake it until I make it”.
So this is what I’m working on for myself for today. I am changing my attitude. I'm going to stop looking for ways to get these people to do what I want them to do and focus on who I need to be in order to attract what I want. I admit, sometimes it’s just difficult to feel empowered. But changing my attitude is a good first step to getting back to that place. Now, maybe I’ll find a little peace in knowing that in this moment, all is as it should be.
All is well!!
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Well, I just had to post a comment on my own post! A couple hours after posting this, one of the people followed up with his promise. I know he doesn't read this blog, and even if for some reason he did, he wouldn't know I was writing about him. Anyway, he called awhile ago and fulfilled what he said he was going to do. Simple as that. After quite awhile, he finally did what he said he would do.
As for the other situation, that has had a promising development as well. It's not complete, but I spoke to the person and he seemed to be very sincere in his efforts.
So, for me, this is no coincidence. I simply had to stop looking outside of myself for the resolution. I still admit that it was hard, but once I reminded myself that I create my own world, then I am empowered again to get whatever I want.
All was well, but now it's even better. Yeah!
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